I have a friend Ms.Grunge who is a classic Malaysian beauty. Fair, raven haired, petite. I got to know her thru Ms.HardCore who is the exact opposite of Ms. Grunge. But don't get me wrong, Ms.HardCore is quite the stunner too. So anyway, I got to know Ms.Grunge well and grew to love her and over the years we grew apart but kept in touch thru smses and the occasional accidental bumps at shopping malls and restaurants and piercing parlours ;)
Now, Ms.Grunge has been seeing and has gotten engaged to this guy whom we shall call Mr.Hotshot for about 6 years. More than half a decade. That's quite a commitment if you ask me. Hotshot is a gorgeous guy. If he wasn't straight, I would have made a play for him a long time ago but in respects to Ms.Grunge I haven't.
As they say in fairy tales, all good things cannot run well. And this engagement was called off 2 days ago by Mr.Hotshot. Apparently, he has fallen out of love with her and is now seeing someone else. In fact, he had been seeing this person for about a month already. And guess what he told Ms.Grunge? "I think I want to marry her" What the bloody @*#&^!%$&#?
Ms.Grunge is in total shock. I don't she ever saw this coming but she did have her doubts over his sincerity. Mr.Hotshot has alot of close and not so close girlfriends and he never introduces Ms.Grunge to any of them. How weird is that? I'm not sure what Ms.Grunge is doing at this very moment but last I heard she was bawling her eyes out crying. She gave 6 years of her life to this fool with hopes that they will spend their lives together and now this little tramp of a girl comes in and destroys her foundation. But you see this is from Ms.Grunge's point of view.
Mr.Hotshot, I guess you can say had a change of heart. Or maybe he just got cold feet. Or maybe he just fell out of love. Whichever but he is a shitty prick for not making up his mind in the first place. And Ms.Tramp, well... I don't know what to say about her. I've been in her position. I've broken up other people's relationships. Sometimes, i see it as triumphant. Sometimes i see it as the spoils of war. And sometimes, i don't even plan it. This things just happen. I don't think there is anyone to blame. People change. Destiny changes. We can never hold on to a future we never have. I must admit I hated this Ms.Tramp person for doing what she did to Ms.Grunge but i can't say i totally blame her cos love will run it's course no matter what. But of course, the drama doesn't end there. I just found out that i know who this Ms. Tramp is . She's a close friend of mine!!!!!! Oh the horror! The shame! The scandal!! And what a small world!
So what am I to do? I am caught in this war where i love both the champions and lust over the prize they are fighting for. It is ridiculous. But i think everybody just needs to come to terms with what has happened and move on. We cannot hold on to the past or we'll never embrace the future. Or can we fight for something we believe in no matter how much tears we shed and how much energy we use?
To Ms.Grunge, you have my hand to hold no matter what you choose to do.
To Ms.Tramp, I hope you know what you are doing.
To Ms.Hardcore, the drama never ends does it. It's been a bitch of a year ;)
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Whatever feelings/circumstances may have changed, Mr Hotshot is a jerk. It is so wrong for someone to string someone else along for 6 years before saying 'I'm interested in someone else'. He should have either married her..say, 4 years ago...or broken up with her before Ms Tramp came along.
As for Ms Tramp, whatever they say about true love yada yada yada...a man who will break someone's heart for her is likely to break her heart for someone else. He obviously is a master at selfish manipulations.
And finally...Ms Grunge...as heartbreaking as it is to lose the one person you thought you'd spend the rest of your life with...she now has free license to enjoy life and the many other fish in the sea...for Mr Hotshot so wasn't worth it. Its never good to be the one who loves the most in a relationship, is it?
And BTW Terry...it really isn't good to lust over other people's men. :p Because one of these days, karma might decide to come back and bite you in the...rear end. :p
And its true that these things happen, but he should've ended his relationship with Ms G before starting something with Ms T.
The best revenge is to go on and have a happy life without him.
Actually I'm retracting the part i said I lust over mrHotshot. He ain't all that after taking a closer look at him.
And yea.. I don't go out looking for attached men to hunt, sometimes you cannot choose who you are atrracted to.
That is true, unfortunately...chemistry is such a complicated thing..
well, il have to say that i agree with miss nalini. However it is more complicated than what was posted. But I have to say one thing for mR HOTSHOT aka LOSER of the century with NO BALLS (ps. he is FUGLY! even for malay standards ok). I really hope he rots in HELL. Unfortunately, seeing the whole scenario come to its conclusion,i cant beleive that i actually sided mr.hotshot during the days when probs arised with him and ms. grunge (not knowing the whole truth until now how ms g had to tolerate his insecurities and hide a secret for so long). NOW all i can wish is for miss GRUNGE to find the man most suitable for her, live happily ever after and never look back to that horrible day of unfortunate event.
As for Ms. Tramp, she might have been manipulated in thinking things may have ended with HS and G but SHE KNEW QUITE WELL HE WAS ENGAGED which she should have kept her DIRTY PUSSY at BAY until the engagement was officially put to a closure (ie parents have to be aware and to call it off). Personally, she can have him..he aint worth it!
and yes it is a BITCH of a year for most where broken hearts seem to be a theme, I so want it to end and hope that the new year will bring joy to all. BUt we cant wait for the new year so i guess we need to start now in spreading love and positivity...cheesy as it seems..its true..
and sweet terry... i hope we no longer have to be the middle of all this..it is tiring and sucking my positive energy away. i hope this drama ends soon just like britneys career.
Excuse me.. Britney's career did not end. It's just on hold. All true Britney worshippers know she will return with a vengeance!!
Sometimes we get confused with the real definition of the word love. It's not entirely chemistry. It's also part lust and part infatuation. Then comes tolerance. After tolerance, then it's also acceptance. But in most cases, it stops at tolerance.
I can understand that Ms Grunge is devastated. Nothing is more painful than to know that there's a third party. It wouldn't hurt as much if Ms Tramp wasn't in the picture.. or other tramps for that matter. Of course as a woman, i despise what was done to her.
Mr. Hotshot is an ass because he cheated on her and hurt her with biting words which was totally uneccessary given the circumstances. It's like adding extra salt to the ikan masin.
But people do fall in love. And for Mr. Hotshot, to fall in love with someone else means that he would have to fall out of love with Ms. Grunge. And if it was so easy, then perhaps he has reasons which we may never understand. Whether they were meant for each other, we really couldn't say that they weren't. Nobody knows.
There is no logic when it comes to love. We just don't think. We feel. We claim that we want to do what's best for "you and I", but deep down, we're thinking of ourselves.
And Ms. Tramp is selfish for making someone's else sorrow her happiness. But honestly, you can't help how you feel. She may genuinely feel bad for Ms. Grunge, but when you're into someone, you just don't think. You want to be with the person in the world you think is yours. Maybe she didn't know that Mr. Hotshot was still with Ms. Grunge. We have to give her the benefit of the doubt.
Unfortunately, I am in the same shithole as Ms. Tramp.
It's not easy at all.
I concur that when we're in love we don't think, merely feel...but it should feel wrong to be in love and know that person is with someone else. It is true love is the most selfish thing, but in that case it is better to break things off and be free to pursue a new relationship with someone else..unless you're too chicken to do it or you want the distinction of having two ladies waiting for you.
Ms T should realise that men who cheat are never trustworthy. Yes, we do not get to choose who we fall in love with, but we can choose to stay with them based on if they are deserving or not.
My sympathies to both Ma G and Ms T, its not a nice position to be in. But if Ms T had stayed away until the prev relationship was over, she would at least have her dignity together with her happiness..Now all she has is a man everyone agrees is a pig.
hehe.. i know who ms. hardcore, ms. grunge and mr.hotshot is. but who is ms. tramp? oh well, i guess a tramp is not worth knowing anyway ;p
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